After Mom or Dad

After Mom or Dad

Practical help after your mother or father dies

Seven short books, from the first month to the death of the second parent. Each says what has to happen first, what can wait, and who can answer the rest. They are being written now, one at a time, starting with the first month.

How long has it been?

Choose one. The books written for that time will be marked below.

The seven books

Each covers a stretch of time after the death. None is out yet.

  1. Book One

    The First Month

    The first month

    Who to call, what to find, what can wait.

    In preparation

  2. Book Two

    Being in Charge

    Months 1 to 9

    Executor or administrator duties, with or without a will.

    In preparation

  3. Book Three

    Their Money

    Months 1 to 12

    Benefits, accounts, taxes, debts.

    In preparation

  4. Book Four

    Their House

    Months 3 to 15

    Stay or sell, and clearing a life.

    In preparation

  5. Book Five

    Siblings and the Estate

    Months 1 to 18

    Family, fairness, and who gets what.

    In preparation

  6. Book Six

    Your Surviving Parent

    Months 3 to 24

    When the other parent is now alone.

    In preparation

  7. Book Seven

    The Second Parent

    After the second death

    When the other parent dies too: the last estate, and the family after.

    In preparation

What the books will be like

The short answer first

Each chapter will open with one question, in plain words, and answer it in a few lines. The detail comes after, for when you want it.

What to do, and what can wait

Each chapter will end with what to do now, what can wait, and where to find help. The list of what can wait is there so you can put those things down.

Checked against the source

Every rule will be checked against the agency, court or law it comes from, and each book will say when. Figures that change will sit on one page at the back.

Information, not advice

The books will explain how things usually work in the United States, what to ask, and who can answer for your situation. They won’t tell you what to choose.

Hear when the first book is out

A short note when each book is out, and the free checklist when it is ready. Five or six emails a year at most. You can unsubscribe whenever you like.

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If your mother is now widowed

The Widow’s Guide is a separate series from the same publisher, written for women in the first two years after a husband dies. If your father died and your mother is now on her own, it was written for her: widowsguide.org.